Last week my not so little sister turned 20. The relationship I have with my sister is something truly special. She can be both my best friend and worst enemy in the space of five minutes. Growing up the two of us were literally inseparable. When there was nothing to do we always had each other. We would play pretend, watch movies, watch Hi-5, listen to CDs, play sing star and make up countless dance routines.
Lil and I are almost four years apart. This gap has basically been reduced to nothing. Sometimes I question why I was born first. Her wisdom and knowledge on so many topics and in so many situations can be likened to someone who has been around a lot longer than 20 years.
There was a brief period when I was a teenager and she was still in the early years of high school when we weren’t as close. We still remained close but we could definitely see our relationship needed to mature but the time just wasn’t right yet. Once I finished school we became close again, she became the best friend I would ever have.
Sister is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship. – Margaret Mead.
Now I am going to briefly go back to this “love-hate” relationship. I have so much love for Lil but sometimes when you are so alike (or not so alike at times) you tend to butt heads. Our arguments are generally over the silliest and most insignificant things. Sometimes I am guilty (I tend to dirty her clothes) and sometimes she is guilty (she knows not to touch the cat in my clothes). Other times we are around our time of the month and tensions are high to say the very least. I think we have both learnt when the other is not in the mood for banter. I tend to ignore the signs sometimes and it’s like voluntarily starting a war. I have to say though, these spats don’t usually last long.
The reasons why I can’t stay mad at Lil is because one, I love her and two, I often need to tell her something. She is literally my ultimate go to person. For advice, to laugh with, to laugh at, to share my embarrassing moments with and to get me out of awkward situations. I cannot imagine my life without her. There are so many decisions I would not have otherwise been able to make if it wasn’t for her! Her infinite amount of patience with me when I am being a bit needy or need to discuss something for the 100th time astounds me. Not only does she listen, she always knows what to say. I feel like she has provided me with more wisdom than I have provided her. When we were younger I was definitely the older and wiser, but now that she has grown up I think she has assumed that role!
Being a sister definitely comes with its advantages and disadvantages. Here is a list of the typical events in the day in the life of a sister:
1. The most embarrassing situations are easy to admit to.
As embarrassed as I am by certain silly things I have done in my life, I never feel ashamed to tell my sister. She will never judge me, she will laugh at me and she will always support me. Just last week I smashed a tip jar at a café (yes you read that right) as much as she pissed herself when I told her she also did ask “are you alright?”
2. We can be unapologetically honest.
No one will show me more honesty than Lil. If I have been going out with a guy that was wrong for me, wearing something that is extremely unflattering or explaining a situation that I am wrong in she will always give me the truth even if it isn’t what I want to hear. As hard as it can be to hear the truth at times, that raw honesty she provides is something that in the long run I am always grateful for.
3. We can speak in movie quotes.
I can’t tell you how many times a day that we quote a TV show or movie. It only takes someone to say something in a particular tone for us both to look at each other and say the exact same quote. I think this comes from years of watching the same movies hundreds of times to the point of memorisation.
4. We know the words to the same songs.
Similar to the movies, we love belting out the lyrics to random songs from our childhood. As we have grown up, our taste in music has diversified but I can guarantee that when we go back and listen to the old ones that we would know all the words… and dance moves.
5. Being called the other’s name and answering to it because it’s not worth the correction.
I would say that I am called my sister’s name at least twice a day every day. Most of the time I just answer to it because there is a 50% chance that mum or dad are calling me.
6. Her wardrobe is my wardrobe.
When we discovered that we can share clothes we both gained another wardrobe. This sounds all good and well but I think that any sister you speak to will say that it is both a blessing and a curse. It is definitely a blessing when you are wearing her clothes. It is a curse when she is wearing yours. You question whether it will come back and if it does come back whether it will be in good condition. Now I am no angel, I am a mess, and often dirty Lil’s clothes with oil of some description. Bless her beautiful soul for continuing to allow me to borrow (or permanently adopt) her clothes!
7. Some people can’t tell the two of us apart.
This is something I really don’t understand. Now I get that the two of us sound the same but when it comes to looks she is tall and fair and I am short with dark features. Lil is extremely loud…. Well we both are. That’s not a good example. The point is, we are different people. I have to say though; I do take it as a lovely complement if I am called Lil. She is actually the most gorgeous girl inside and out so to share some kind of resemblance of looks and qualities is a blessing.
8. We have no filter around each other.
When it comes to conversation there is really nothing off limits. I love that we have the kind of relationship that I can tell her that I have finally gone to the bathroom after two days and it isn’t even weird… or it is and we don’t think so.
9. Her enemies are my enemies.
It is one thing for me to get upset with Lil and say things at times I regret, but as soon as someone else says anything to her I get so mad. In my eyes she is so kind and if someone ever does anything to hurt her special little soul it breaks my heart.
10. You always have someone to text in an awkward situation.
Lil is the first person I will message in an awkward situation. Our texting chats while on the tram in questionable situations always make me laugh and make the situation much more bearable. The day Lil was texting me because some lady’s bum was pushed up against her was one of the most hilarious conversations via text we have ever had!
11. She is a saviour at events when there is no one to talk to.
We have been to many functions in our time, some fun and others really draining. If it wasn’t for her company at some functions I would have literally been standing all alone. It amazes me that despite the fact that we live in each other’s pockets that we can always find things to discuss to make the time fly past.
12. She is a best friend for life.
As corny as it may sound, Lil really is my best friend. We connect on pretty much every level. She understands me, she tolerates me and she is always there for me.
My relationship with Lil is so valuable and I know that it is something I will never take for granted. I will only have one sister so I see it as my role to make sure that we are always close and that we keep our family close always. Love you to the moon and back you incredible woman!!
The best thing about having a sister was that I always had a friend. – Cali Rae Turner.
Oh my gosh was't she just a doll!!